Since I heard this song this morning, and had this discussion with a friend recently, I’m opening the question up here:
The Pina Colada Song (aka Escape) — romantic, or horrible?

6 Responses

  1. Why does the question seem to suggest that it has to be one or the other. Most romantic stuff, IMHO, is pretty horrible.

    But if I’m asked to pick one, I’ll pick horrible.

    That said, I like it. Maybe twice a year.

  2. Eh, the discussion was whether it’s a positive picture of a relationship, or a negative one? Is it a happy ending?

  3. I’d like to say that I’m usually happy when the song ends, but, this is one of those tunes whose mean mention instantly sets off the endless song loop in my head, thank you very much.

    As for the relationship portrayed in the song, to me, it really seems horribly shallow, dull and uninspiring – much like the 70s themselves. There seems to be no real communication between the couple because neither seems to know the likes and dislikes of the the other and there seems to be no real interest in finding out those things.

    When the relationship got boring, rather than try and find out ways to make the relationship right, they both set out, in secret, to leave it. They each engaged in acts of betrayal, which, I believe have to be relationship killers because they speak to the matter of trust and respect. If they had true love and respect for one another, they would not have gone behind the other’s back in order to try and enter into another relationship that would be more “exciting.”

    And, of course, what could they say to one another once both arrived at O’Malley’s and discovered the truth? What can you say when you find out someone has committed such an utter act of betrayal and you, at the same time, have committed a similar act?

    Of course, some might say that such a discovery before either party took action which would have ended the relationship could spur them both to realize the problems they have and work to make it better. Through communication, they could grow closer and learn what they need to know about each other to make the relationship flourish.

    I tend to think, though, that it would be hard for them both to overlook the fact that the other took actions to end the relationship. Any trust that would have been built up over time would have been shattered and it’s very hard to come around to trusting someone again once you’ve been burned. Plus, how unimportant must each of them have felt when they learned that the other had done this without any regards for the other’s feelings? Their actions show unfeeling cowardice. But, they both really prove to be shallow, uncaring, untrustworthy and generally terrible human beings that maybe they can find happiness together, though it wouldn’t be a “happiness” that I would want.

    Okay, I just realized that this pushed a button. Sorry for the rant.

    What was the question….?

  4. I concur with a lot of what Joe said. There almost needs to be a sequel so we can know what happens next, because I can see several alternate endings. I see Joe’s point that the trust has already been broken so the relationship may end anyway. I can also see a scenario where they embrace this experience as a new beginning and take what they’ve learned about each other as a leaping board. I think it can also speak to how meant for each other these two may be in that they both got bored with the relationship (their fault) and explored other options (their fault) but still made their way back to each other (fate?). For me, personally, it’s a reminder to not to get to that point, to work at knowing your partner and keeping the relationship alive and fresh and open and growing, etc. so you don’t to the point where one person has so much about them you don’t know. Easier said than done but worth the effort.

  5. I’ll agree with Calluna on the cautionary aspect; but primarily I agree with Joe — how solid can a relationship be when you reach the point that you know for a fact that, one, your spouse is completely willing to cheat on you, and, two, that you are willling to look outside the marriage for things you don’t feel like your getting.

    Because even in the new “hey, we both like pina coladas” arrangement, there are still going to be things you don’t have in common. “I like Lost; she likes 24; I need to find someone else.”

    I’m not saying it couldn’t be worked out, but Calluna’s proposed sequel would have to be “Relate (The Couples Counseling Song)”:

    Do you like Jungian therapy,
    And your childhood explained?
    We’ll discuss emotional issues,
    buried deep in your brain!

  6. As far as the song in general, I like it b/c I think it’s funny. As for the message, I think it’s horrible for the same reasons as previously mentioned.

    But I like doing most of the stuff mentioned in the chours so hey, it makes me smile every time I hear it!!!

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